To start off Women’s History Month, here’s a video I want to share with my readers to help open your minds and give you something to think about. My friend Sara posted this on Facebook not too long ago and I have to say, it did give me something to think about because I am a Beyonce fan.
I’ve always loved Beyonce but along with her and other popular artists I follow they do degrade our sex by exposing themselves for attention, money,”success” and etc. Because of this video I’m interested in reading the book “Full Frontal Feminism” and when I’m done I will give you all a review about it.
I love just about everything Sara post on facebook. Sara questions and has a strong opinion about a lot involving female concerns, world issues and so much more. What’s great about my friend is her strong energy, intelligence, and her over all beauty and brains package. If you have an instagram or twitter you can find and follow her at @bksileana . I will engage more on this topic but for now…
“What nobody tells people who are beginners — and I really wish someone had told this to me . . . is that all of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, and it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not.
But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase. They quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know it’s normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story.
It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.”
When Jada Pinkett-Smith was asked why she let her daughter Willow shave her head, this is what she said:
“This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete.
why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power, or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit, and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes, and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be. More to come. Another day.”
This song has been in my head for the past 3 days. It’s the only song lifting my spirits up at the moment. This song I always loved but now I feel the message applies to me and it makes me feel optomistic and stay focused.
Food for thought!
See I picks my friends like I pick my fruit
My Granny told me that when I was only a youth
I don’t walk around trying to be what I’m not
I don’t waste my time trying to get what you got
I work at pleasin’ me
Cause I can’t please you and that’s why I do what I do
My soul flies free like a willow tree
Doo wee doo wee doo wee
And if you don’t want to be down with me, then you don’t want to pick
From my Apple Tree!
I have thought for days whether to write about this or not. I’ve been trying to keep my blog focused on my career and less on my personal life. I feel I’ve been doing a great job at that, but I do like to express myself and I bet some of my readers have to be dealing with the same thing so let’s bring it to the table.
This post I’m letting loose because it is about bullshit people. I love the person I’m becoming. I feel she’s smart, creative, a growing business, beautiful on the outside and even more on the inside. I haven’t felt this confident ever and I owe it to the people I surround myself with now. One must surround themselves with like minded people who encourage them and lift them up instead of striving to bring them down. One of the best advice my aunt has ever shared with me was …
“You give them enough rope to hang with you or hang themselves!”
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”
LOVE… It can happen at a show. On the subway. It can happen three days later, when you’re crossing the street. It can happen anywhere, really. The beauty is , it’s different for everybody. And that impact, when it happens, you know it.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous.
Actually who are you NOT to be, we were born to manifest the glory of god that is within us and as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.